You Can’t Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded): a Review

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Have you ever read a book that seemed to just lift a heavy weight off of your shoulders? For several months I have struggled with a very strong-willed child of mine (who will remain nameless:). I just don’t understand why this child does what he does.

Enter You Can’t Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded).

Cynthia Tobias, being a SWC (strong-willed child) herself, does such a great job in helping parents really understand what is going on. She uses her lifetime of experience with SWCs (one of them being her very own son) to help the reader really understand the behavior most SWCs exhibit. I am really tempted to make a poster of all of her teachings (especially her top 10 list at the end of the book) and put it all over the house! I need the reminder that not everyone thinks the way I do, or will act the way I want them to act!

I am finally beginning to understand what has been going on when it comes to my SWC! I feel well equipped now to deal with the child I have previously had such a hard time understanding…what a great feeling! Just since I started reading this book I have already seen great improvements in our relationship! There is a lot less yelling and punishment, and a lot more cooperation! In fact, this very morning, my SWC was self-motivated enough to go down and clean the basement (A.K.A. the toy room) before we even left for church! It is so good to understand how to use the passion and energy they have in a productive way!

This book is one that will stay on my shelf for encouragement and strategies to help me through this crazy parenting adventure. I can see myself reading this book year after year (as I can sense I have at least 1 more SWC in the family:)!

So before you discount your SWC as someone you will just never understand, I urge you to read this book! Relationships can be healed! Behaviors can be changed! If you want to check this book out here are a few links to get you started:

* an excerpt from the book

* buy the book: You Can’t Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded)